The Power of Affirmation: The 6 P’s of Effective Affirmations
Possible: You must believe your affirmation is possible. You don’t necessarily have to believe it 100% yet, but you at least have to reasonably believe it is possible and reasonable.
Power: Your affirmation must be within the power of your control. Affirmations are what we are telling our own brains to take action on. Affirming that it won’t rain on your wedding day or that your boyfriend will stop being so critical is ineffective because they’re outside of your control. Instead, affirm that you’ll find great joy in your wedding, regardless of the weather, or that you’ll communicate openly and honestly about how you feel and take constructive criticism with grace.
Present: Write affirmations in the present tense—as if it’s happening now. Use words like “am” instead of “will”.
Personal: Use “I” statements and, again, keep your affirmations focused on yourself, not things outside of yourself.
Positive: Focus on what you DO want, not what you do NOT want. Avoid words such as “not” and “don’t”. For example, instead of saying “I am not yelling at my kids” say “I am speaking to my kids costatementnstructively and lovingly.”
Passion: The key ingredient to effective affirmations is to FEEL IT! The emotional response to your affirmation is what allows the brain to create new wires. This is also why using incantations is so powerful.
And, lastly, repeat your affirmations consistently. This means repeating them often and over a long period of time. Write them down and post them somewhere visible in your home. Program an alarm to remind you to look at them at specific times of day. Keep a copy of them in your phone or wallet. And, like we’ve mentioned elsewhere in the course, put your affirmation art where you can SEE IT! And, commit to reviewing or looking them daily for 30 days.